The friendship between a man and a woman which does not lead to marriage or desire for marriage may be a life long experience of the greatest value to themselves and to all their circle of acquaintance and of activity; but for this type of friendship both a rare man and a rare woman are needed. Perhaps it should be added that either the man or the woman thus deeply bound in lifelong friendship who seeks marriage must find a still rarer man or woman to wed, to make such a three cornered comradeship a permanent success.
You are right, one need guts to finish what one had started, on should have guts to ask certain questions.
In love, one doesn’t need the institution of marriage to help them, love is not about friendship, love is not about the spouse, love is to love the fellow human being, if you believe two of them want to make a life journey then go ahead, if it’s a group, then well go ahead, live beyond the limitations, like the mad man of the movie 300, set your rules, if you had to die in this due course, better die, you will be remembered.
If one is doesn’t agree to any of the above, then one doesn’t love, but likes, like is a condition when the mind works and heart set beside, love is a state when the hearts rule and the mind set beside.
If you don’t agree to any of the above, please ponder on your state of ego.
If one knows how to love on person, he can love any person. Love every fellow human, rather romancing about loving a beautiful girl/boy. It easy to love some thing beautiful, but rare to love others limitations. Hope we stop adulterating the beautiful word called LOVE.